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• Friday, April 13, 2007 10:36 AM Tia wrote:
  Elisa,
  
  I actually could care less.
  
  I remember the first time I was called "nigger" by a white boy when I was in 3rd grade. I was unsure of what he meant because like all other "curse words" I heard the word being used at my Dad's side of the family like water. I also knew it was one of those words that I could say only around them - not in school and definitely not with my Mom's side. But the difference was I knew he was using it to insult me because of the tone of his voice, so I whooped his ass (you know I've always been feisty) and we both got in trouble. After the parent teacher conferences, my Dad and I spoke about the meaning of the word, and he then emphasized how we should never give power to words, especially those said by someone trying to hurt you. A word is a word and it takes a person to actually bring the meaning to life. Why should we give someone who obviously wants to hurt us that much power?
  
  Now that I'm older, I completely understand what he's saying. A word cannot define me. The last time I was called a "bitch" I told the person "That may have caused me to get mad in middle school, but I'm grown now. I am that bitch and a whole lot more." It shut them up quickly.
  
  As far as Imus goes, I definitely thought that he was wrong. He should have concentrated on the skills of the basketball players, not whether they have a kink in their hair. If I was them I probably would have said "Yes, without the help of the Dominicans, I have nappy hair. And? Who cares? I can still take your ass to the hole any given day." And who cares if Imus "knows them." Quite frankly, he doesn't deserve their presence. People who feel the need to bring others down by insulting them are not worth it and beneath the person they are trying to insult. Period.
  
  We, as a society, need to respect each other. Treat others as you wish to be treated is cliche, but true. Hold open a door, give up that seat on the train, be polite to others, buy a cupcake for the person who helps you out in the office, send thank you notes, treat your cab driver not like your servant, make convo w/ the Starbucks barista... the smallest things can brighten someone's day. If we live life in a positive way to the best of our ability, we will improve the overall quality - and then things like the "N-Word" will have so much less clout. Don't you think?
  
  Love, The ramble queen...
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• Monday, April 09, 2007 3:28 PM dotcom wrote:
  I can understand being upset at the "ho" reference. But them chicks REALLY had nappy hair? All of a sudden we get mad cuz whitey notices our hair texture? Negroes come on, you all get perms, presses and weaves just to look nice for these crackas and so he will continue cutting yalls paychecks. Now if youre more angry at the "Ho" comment, then thats merited... but lemme see you niggas start boycotting Lil Wayne, Jay Z and the rest of them contemporary minstrels for their misogynistic charges. Focus your efforts negroes, focus them! Dont let whiteys episodes, such as these, deter you from your ultimate goal...
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• Wednesday, February 07, 2007 1:52 PM goldiilocs wrote:
  I agree that that actions cause a reaction, yes. Personally, my point is NOT to advocate sleeping around or make reckless decisions. Allow me to divert from the sexual aspect, if you will. A we all know, it is well known that women are unfairly judged in society on many different levels, not just who they choose to sleep with. I would hope that more women would adopt a true stance of having that self love and acceptance where they don't have to live their life in guilt or shame for simply going through life experiences. Do you understand what I mean? When we as a whole love ourselves, regardless of what we look like, what we dress like, what our interests are, etc etc, that is when, we will have that inner peace and strength not to wavered. I can't tell you how many horror stories about my female friends (and myself included) who have gone through hell merely for not falling into the 'status quo' of what a good 'young lady' is or does. This can range from wearing natural hair to having a different religion. And within society as well, it always seems like a man's word has more weight than a woman's. I've gotten too far off track. But sis, take care. Good talking to you.
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• Saturday, January 27, 2007 10:49 PM Huey Huxtable wrote:
  Ok ok ok, blah blah blah... this negro has made some valid points. However he totally flawed himself in that last statement: "The black woman is gonna have to raise her standards, etc etc..." Well once that happens, and the black woman becomes too much of a challge, these content niggas are just gonna bypass Flomeesha Williams and start boo'ing down Betty Farnsworth, Deepa Patel and Lao Ming-Kim. I ask you, oh pontiferous sage negro, will you also stand up for the other ethnic women of color that the black man will trivialize and denegrate after he moves on from the black woman? Niggas will always be trife - stop being optomistic.
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• Monday, January 08, 2007 1:57 PM DC wrote:
  I think everyone over 25 has these kind of "Life Adjustment" conversations with themselves on their birthdays. I avoided / did not celebrate mine on purpose, because I knew my "things to do by 25" list wasn't going to be fully checked off. I think part of growing up (older) is adjusting to reality, where most of us don't own a house at 24 and get married by 25. As long as you're on your path and making progress, then you have to give yourself credit and keep it moving. Also, another shift is, when you're younger, you can't wait to get older, you're thinking of all the things you get to do when you turn 16, 18, 21, etc. At our age, there's not much we can't do, so you have to start enjoying the journey, and stop pushing for the next destination.
  
  You're perfectly normal and exceptionally fabulous, so never worry! Happy Early 25(for the 2nd time birthday!
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• Wednesday, December 20, 2006 11:33 AM VaFashionista wrote:
  Thank you for doing apost on this bullsh*t! hmmph! now have they ever thought of what they did to vanessa williams many years back! blah! I will play the race card!
  
  
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• Saturday, December 16, 2006 5:19 AM Melanie wrote:
  Hi, I know this is a little late, but I wanted to comment. Also, I love your site (which I've just found). I think you're an intelligent, beautiful woman, who has some insightful thoughts to share!
  
  About Michael Richards...personally, my friends and I think he's crazy...and an ass. Okay, I'm being much too nice. He greatly offends me...and I'm white and Jewish. He offends me more than Mel Gibson does. He may be crazy, but it's NO excuse for what he did.
  
  My problem with both Richards and Gibson isn't how they feel. For both, I think it's very deep-rooted, and they'll never change. That part makes me sad, because both are completely closing their minds to others. They're missing out on some amazing human beings. I believe it's their right to feel the way they do, however terrible it is, but where they need to draw the line is where and how they say something about it.
  
  The problem is, nobody can change the way they feel unless they WANT to. In the way that women who marry men thinking they'll miraculously "change" them (and amazingly, they never do!), both Richards and Gibson will have to do that themselves.
  
  IMHO, whether or not they ultimately change isn't the issue, but if this is the way they truly feel, keep it behind closed doors. Say what you want about me, my friends, my people, whatever...hey, you don't have to like me...but if you're a public figure (like those two ignorant jerks - and once again, I'm being much too nice), keep your crazy mouth shut in public! Nobody wants to hear that crap.
  
  I'm voting both of them off of MY island. ;D
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• Friday, December 01, 2006 8:47 PM Tia wrote:
  You mentioned Flavor Flav's potential odors, but not the Ying Yang Twins. Ever since "whistle while you twirk" (yes, your song first year) I KNEW their breath had to smell like butt. I can't wait til the other one shaves down. I think they should get some sort of sponsorship by like Ivory and Listerine.
  
  You can't fault Britney too much for calling Paris her "role model" - she's trailor trash who lucked up. Haven't we seen that with all of her antics (marrying the gay friend in Vegas, Kevin F, baby on lap while driving, etc). Strictly a product of her environment.
  
  And yes I agree w/ Jim Jones. All the damn Africans who braid hair in Harlem alone and he still cant find one? As soon as I step off the subway they attack me asking me if I want MY hair braided... I know that my hair doesn't look as bad as his. Doesn't he have a stylist?
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• Tuesday, November 14, 2006 6:10 PM JEB wrote:
  The Conceited Black Man's Response:
  
  1) 49ers have a better record than the Redskins. The Niners were picked to finish dead last in the league. That cannot be encouraging if you hail to the Redskins.
  2) You're right.
  3) I agree with you. The Americans should have known better. And NOBODY would have an issue with the film if it wasn't a world wide hit.
  4) You and your SK3 can bite me.
  5) You can't read like R. Kelly, so why are you getting a paper. You dictate your Blog to your mother who types it for you.
  6) No argument there...but stank people go to stank-ass gyms. Just putting it out there.
  7) Why do I even know Superhead's real name? Head has taken her farther than Monica Lewinsky.
  8) La Quinta management to Ms. Bougie Broad: Look here Ms. Broad, it's like this - we have rooms and you don't. Please swipe your debit card and be sure to use the latch on the Murphy bed so you aren't folded into the wall. By the way we watch you Negros, so don't try to raid the mini-bar or steal any towels.
  9) Chaos is why the 49ers are ahead of the Redskins.
  10) You better suck it up.
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• Wednesday, November 01, 2006 8:00 AM DC wrote:
  So, on the whole, I agree with you & Ms. Knowles. Nice song, good point, let's all sing it loud and do a good 2 step. BUT, there are a couple of things that give me pause.
  
  First, the whole let a man be a man thing. In order for that to happen, you need to have a man ready to be a man. Too many a chick has been caught stupid following a foolish boy. But I suppose you weed out the boys, with the whole "come harder this won't be easy" component.
  
  Moving on, I find it interesting that you left out the, "anything you cop I split the bill. When you're in the meeting for the mill(ions) take me just to compliment the deal." Are women ready/ supposed to pay for our upgrade? If I'm letting you be the man, am I still paying for half of dinner? And, if you're signing deals for dollars, am I there to be arm candy? Is it acceptable for a woman of a certain character to play the pretty but silent role? Can I take my upgradable man with me all prettied up when I buy my next investment property?
  
  Overall, I like you, like the song. It's something to give the masses to hum to, and I think it gives women everywhere a nice little self esteem boost. But, take it with a grain of salt, because on the next track on the CD she's b*tchin about the next woman profiting from her upgrades. Which, of course is a whole other discussion...
  
  Like the site Ms. Broad..keep the commentary coming
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• Tuesday, October 31, 2006 11:03 AM Simone wrote:
  Hail to the bougie broad! I aint mad at you--I rather will join the club!
  
  Much love, from one bougie sister to the next!
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• Tuesday, October 31, 2006 12:40 AM random wrote:
  Don’t get me wrong, I subscribe to this notion of the strong, independent, black woman, but that can only take me so far. I want and need a strong, independent, black man in my life who can keep me on my toes and show me a thing or two.
  
  Does the man have to be black, can he be of another ethnic background. Or what if he is mixed? I agree with all you wrote except that part. Besides that I agree.
  
  -Random...
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• Monday, October 30, 2006 11:10 AM Michael-Da Truth wrote:
  LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL...
  
  Only you my dear can pull this off...
  
  I like the layout, I look forward to some good stuff, many of our convos will end up here...long live the couch happy hour!
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