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Does Mr. Right = Mr. White?

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This entry was posted on Tuesday, August 07, 2007 10:11 AM and is filed under Black culture,Love and Relationships.

I’m baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!  Things got pretty hectic (i.e. moving and work) but things are back to normal.  I know yall missed me!

So could your “Mr. Right” be white?

Have I ever dated outside my race?  Yes, one guy and it wasn’t serious.  Am I against interracial dating?  Nope, not at all; do what you do.  There are more than a few interracial couples in my family.  One produced my niece who is my ray of sunshine!  We all know it’s not easy meeting someone you are compatible with so if you meet someone and they happen not to look like you, who cares, right?  But then again, I guess it is what you are attracted to.  Personally I love black men and I simply identify with the black male.  I love seeing successful black relationships evolving into beautiful black families.  Our community is in need of positive families who produce productive and successful citizens.  I can’t lie, I am sometimes perplexed when I see a black man with a non-black woman.  I guess I am just always curious as to why they are together.

Honestly when I think of interracial couples, I think of black men dating non-black women (usually white women).  But the CNN article, " 'Could Mr. Right be White?' More black women consider 'dating out'", has opened my eyes.  I never realized how many black women were dating white men.  But even still, according to the article almost 75% of the black-white marriages in 2006 involved black hubbies.

Here is where I have a problem (you knew it was coming).  This article actually offended me.  Why are black women turning to white men?  Well the CNN article points out various “reasons” that are ridiculous in my opinion.  This article makes it sound like black women hate black men.  I hate it when I hear someone say that there are no more good black men out there.  Give me a break.  There are plenty of great black men who are still single (maybe you got some issues that a good black man won't deal with—ouch).  So because you claim there are no “good” black men out there, you are dating those of other ethnicities?  I mean damn, how would you feel knowing that the only reason someone is dating you, is because they are fed up with their own race? Lol.  Let’s be real. 

It boils down to this.  You can not help who you fall in love with and who you are compatible with, but you can help who you seek out and the reasons why you do that.  This article in my opinion is ridiculous and I think they are trying to ruffle some feathers.  Falling in love is different from strategically picking your mate in my opinion and I think this article is confusing the two.

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    • Wednesday, August 08, 2007 8:36 AM The MadBlackCritic wrote:
      Boo! to your opinion. lol. From a Brotha's standpoint this is very good to see. We've been catching flack all this time for steppin out and now the numbers prove you guys are doing the same thing, albeit on a smaller scale. Appreciate the data ma and stop hatin. Y'all have been exposed. And yes, the whole thing about there not being any good black men is ridiculous. Let's be a little more defined in that statement, there is a lack of tall (6 ft & above), dark, smooth dressin, over-educated, rich, and handsome black men available. If you all would get off your damn pedestal and just appreciate a 'good' black man, this wouldn't be a discussion. Hence, y'all step out to the other race for tall, dark, smooth dressin, over-educated, rich, and handsome.

      Plus, I've yet to run into a black woman that knows how to take care of herself physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally that faces the shortage of 'good' black men. It's the ones that have issues and/or don't have this $hit together that do all this complaining.

      As misleading as the numbers are, they still don't lie. Gotta love 'em.

      Out, MBC
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      1. Wednesday, August 08, 2007 8:44 AM The Bougie Broad wrote:
        Dear MadBlackCritic,

        First, yes the numbers prove that black women are marrying white men BUT did you miss the part about how nearly 75% of black/white marriages include black husbands!?!?  The data only shows that a small number of women are doing this.  Exposed?  Look, marry whoever you want to.  I don't understand why you are "boo-ing" my opinion.  My problem is the reason behind dating outside of your race.  If your reason is simply b/c they aren't any good candidates in your race, that is ridiculous!  I totally agree with you about how SOME women have unreasonable expectations and wouldn't know a "good" man if he slapped her in the face.

        I have a problem with the following statement you made:  "...I've yet to run into a black woman that knows how to take care of herself physically, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally that faces the shortage of 'good' black men. It's the ones that have issues and/or don't have this $hit together that do all this complaining."

        That is BS!  You are starting to sound like the black women claiming there aren't any good black men out there!  Boo to you!

        .:The Bougie Broad:.
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    • Thursday, August 16, 2007 9:44 AM Alisha wrote:
      I totally agree with you. I have no problem with interracial marriages. Do what you do, but when you intentionally SEEK OUT persons of another race because you CAN'T DEAL with Black women/men, there's a problem. It's called running away. When will you ever build something genuine and long-lasting if you have serious issues with your own race?

      Would I consider dating a person of another race? Maybe. I love my Black men so much though!

      First time commenting, btw. Great blog!
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      1. Friday, August 17, 2007 12:07 PM The Bougie Broad wrote:
        Dear Alisha,

        Yes!  I am glad that someone agrees with me!  I mean damn.  Imagine your are dating this white guy and the reasoning is because he's sick of all the white women he has met.  I would feel like complete poo!  And you are right, reasons like that are simply signs of running away.  Whateva happened to building each other up?  Jeez.

        Well you are no longer a comment virgin when it comes to my blog so keep coming back!  So glad you like it!

        .:The Bougie Broad:.
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    • Wednesday, October 10, 2007 1:24 PM Random wrote:
      Well... I am neither black or white... I am a me... I am not sure if I really understood your opinion on this one but if I did then I kind of agree... But I would have to say why does it have to be black, white, yellow, brown or whatever race it might be... I think you contradicted yourself in the article:
      I can’t lie, I am sometimes perplexed when I see a black man with a non-black woman. I guess I am just always curious as to why they are together.

      You also explain how in your own family there is "inter-racial"relationships... don't quite understand that...
      Now I also don't understand why it has to be black this white this latinos this... we need to stay together as a whole... that is why the world is what it is today and it will stay like that for a long time if we continue to think this way...
      I understand people have their own beliefs... I have gone through many long hard stares because of this same issue and I could care less because (not to sound cheesy)... Love Conquers All...
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