On my way to work this morning, I was listening to one of my favorite morning shows (The Kane Show on HOT 99.5) and they brought up the subject of men being “whipped”.  I hate this term because it conjures up negative images and makes a man feel inferior.  I really hate how society tends to label everything and put a title on it (that’s another blog in itself).

Just because a man would rather hangout with his girlf, than the boys… he’s “whipped”?  No, maybe his boys are simple and predictable lol.

Just because a man gives his girl the respect of doing something he promised to do… he’s “whipped” (i.e. calling her when he says he will)?  No, he’s a man of his word.

Just because a man sometimes sacrifices and compromises to make his girl happy… he’s “whipped”?  No, isn’t that what a good relationship is about—compromise?

Just because a man asks his girl for advice before making a decision… he’s “whipped”?  No, maybe he values his girl’s opinion.

I really think the term is so ridiculous.  If the actions are mutual and both parties in the relationship are looking out for each other's best interest, what is the problem?  Aha, there is none!

A man, who caters to his woman and respects her, was raised properly.   As long as his girl gives him the same respect, I don’t see a problem.  I think people confuse someone who is being a good mate (in their opinion “whipped) with a person (male or female) who lacks confidence, lacks a sense of self, has no back bone, and looks to their significant other for direction at all times.  That’s not being “whipped”; rather that person has some issues that they need to take care of before getting into a relationship.

At the end of the day, your significant other (in my opinion) should be you best friend as well as your lover.  So with that said, it is natural to spend more time with that person.  The trick is to balance your individuality with your relationship so you are true to both.